We meet people time to time who are not honest with us or they are not fair to us. Sometimes it’s hard not to lose trust in them and stay open minded with others. If you lose trust in people in general and you always think about someone screwing you, you will be blind for many great opportunities. That’s why it’s so important to keep the faith, people are generally good and if you meet someone who is not, you can still chose not to be in contact.
Here’s my tips on why it’s key not to lose trust in people:
1) If someone hurt you, be grateful for the learnings!
“Hard times build determination and inner strength. Through them we can also come to appreciate the uselessness of anger. Instead of getting angry nurture a deep caring and respect for troublemakers because by creating such trying circumstances they provide us with invaluable opportunities to practice tolerance and patience.”
In the last few years I had some pretty painful learnings about how to trust and how not to lose trust in people. Both in private and business life you have to be around people who make you feel good and you can trust. Sounds very easy if you have self-confidence about yourself. The problem is if you don’t trust yourself you will be a magnet of people who will screw you. In the last 2 years I have lost the most important people in my company and I still learnt the most valuable things in life. They thought me how to never give up, they thought me how to built up something from scratch again and they thought me how to listen to my first impression and feelings, also that there are many wonderful people I can trust and the most importantly they thought me how to trust myself!
2) Get rid of your anger!
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one who gets burned.”
If you can’t get over these painful situations it will poison you day by day. It is ok to be disappointed or even angry for a bit but trust me you have to let negative emotions towards people go. It pulls you down and you’ll find yourself in the same terrible situation over and over again. That’s why you must learn to let go of these people. If you can learn how to handle these situations with love this type of person will never appear in your life again.
3) Being antisocial is not a solution!
Separating yourself from from people is the result of your fear getting hurt again. In this case you are hurting only one person: yourself. All the wonderful miracles of life are happening out there in cooperation with great people. We are meant to share love and happiness with each other. Don’t close your doors because some situations from the past. I was very close to getting into depression after four very important people of my life actually not only left me but they really hurt me financially and emotionally. Other wonderful people I didn’t even realize until that moment didn’t let me down. They didn’t let me close my doors. Open Your yourself and don’t turn into a lonely person!
4) Listen to your gut feeling!
Recognition is the best word to use here: If you recognize the feeling you get, you should try to remember and listen to it. Doesn’t matter whether it is good or bad, the first feeling in your heart can help you not to jump into a bad, painful situation again. Try to know yourself better by writing your first impressions and feelings down. You will see how amazingly perfect your “alarm system works”. You just have to recognize your feelings and trust it so you can trust in people again.
5) Place people where they belong!
After your natural alarm goes on it is still your decision what to do with the specific person. If you keep your experiences, feelings, impressions in your mind you will have a bunch of categories already where you can put people into. You’ll know where the person belongs in your life. The problem starts if you put a negative, pessimistic person in your friend or partner category. Keep your mind and soul in focus so you know what type of person is standing in front of you.
6) Accept the difference!
“Peace does not mean an absence of conflicts, differences will always be there. Peace means solving these differences through peaceful means, through dialogue, education, knowledge, and through humane ways.” Dalai Lama
It is wonderful how colorful the world is. Different nations, personalities, religions, habits etc. You don’t need to have a relationship, friendship with all people around you and you don’t have to agree or disagree with the way the live but you must accept other people being different!