“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.” – Henry Ford
The first week of May was something special. Not only for me but for many of the people around me. Did you also feel a lot of intense feelings and fears? I truly believe that for some reason this was a time to face some really tough fears coming from our pasts. Everyone I spoke to told me about interesting revelations they made and that they felt like crying all the time. Felt hopeless and lost, like nothing was true anymore.
I am a very positive person who have learnt to keep my happiness in balance or at least partly. The past week have thought me that you can’t cover up fears and fill it with love and forgiveness. You have to face it first and go through it. Don’t misunderstand me, you can feed it with love and light, it helps. But unless you face it, it will stay and explode like a volcano. And believe me, nothing good comes out of that!
So how to face your fears so you get can rid of your limits that are holding you back:
How do you know it’s fear?
First how do you realize that you are facing a fear? It’s not so obvious sometimes. For example procrastination is a disguise for fear. If you keep delaying something that you feel good about I bet you are doing that because you are afraid of something. Of things such as ‘I can’t do it’, ‘I’m not capable.’ or ‘I will get hurt’ etc.
What are things you’d like, but you procrastinated for too long?
What are things that you are afraid of doing?
Your body is giving you signs!
I feel fear in my stomach usually or in my heart. Where do you feel it? Think of the different areas or problems in your life. Do you feel good about it or bad? Do you feel any symptoms in your body? If you do, try to describe what’s it like and how it makes you feel. Is it fear? Or is it something else?
When I meet fear I want to get rid of it. Cover it up with love and positive energies. But that is like taking in a pill to get rid of migraine. It will go away, but unless I figure out the root of the problem, it will come back again and again. So this time what I did differently was I faced my fear, I felt every little part of it, I let it go through me. I just let is happen, without wanting to understand it as first. Just let it be and not adding in extra worry, for feeling it. And finally it revealed itself to me. It showed me what I’m afraid of and that I have to face my past. Even though if I thought I was already done with it.
So what now?
I still have my fear with me, but it has lost it’s power over me. I know why it’s here and that I will need time to let it go. But I’m alert and mindful. I don’t let it rule me. Because I don’t want it to stop me. I want to be who I really am. And grow and improve others. I cannot do that with my fears tying me down. But it’s also a part of me. I have created it to protect myself from something that is probably no longer a risk for me.
Learning more about yourself, your thoughts, patterns, fears is not always fun! Sometimes you have to dig deep into mud. But once you are brave enough to do that you will improve!