“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar
Motivation drives us towards our goals so it’s key that we understand how can we maintain it on the way, especially when things get busy and we are in the blurry clouds of stress. Which, let’s be honest, happens with all of us, all the time! We have to perform at work, at home as a mother, wife, husband, child, friend etc. The worst thing that can happen is that we lose our motivation, as that’s like letting go of the driving wheel in your car (life). It’s leading to a crash! It’s important that you understand what drives you and how can you motivate yourself, as it will be a button that you will have to push constantly to reach your goals and feel good on the way. It’s like taking a shower, you do it every day. You can miss one day, but you will get a bit stinky and dirty and if you miss more days, it becomes worse.
But what drives and motivates us? Well, it’s different with everyone, but there are a couple of general goals and dreams for everyone, such as being happy or successful or financially safe. But you need to find your own drive factors. How do you know what motivates you? Just answer these simple questions to help you figure out:
- What makes me happy and satisfied?
- What are my main values in life? Click here to read ‘3 Unbelievable effective self-improvement tools”!
- What are the 5 most important things in life to possess? (material stuff, relationship, skills etc)
- When do I feel content?
- If I reach my goal what will my benefit be?
- Why is it good for me?
This is how to motivate yourself in times of stress:
1) Set a clear vision that inspires you!
Clarity is power! Make sure you set crystal clear goals and visions for yourself. Best if you create a vision board or an image of your vision that inspires you! Stick it on the bathroom mirror, so you see it every day! Make it really motivating and dig down deep! For example money is not motivation, what you buy from it, is you motivation. So for example my motivation is to create a lifestyle of freedom, where I can chose to live the life I want, travel and meet different cultures. I could say it’s money, as I need that to reach this goal, but it’s actually freedom and happiness that I want.
2) Surround yourself with inspiration!
Meeting and chatting with like minded people, who inspire you will make you fly! I am not joking! Seeing good examples in front of you will boost your energies! You will get ideas that will push you forward! If you meet people who already did what you are only longing for, it will give you a push. They say the 5 people you spend most of your time with completely define you as a person. Make sure you spend your time with friends who are positive and you build each other!
Tip: Agree with a friend to have motivational calls each week! Share your goals and create weekly action plans and follow up with each other. This will keep your motivation up and also holds you responsible for the goals you set!
3) Celebrate milestones!
Make sure you celebrate each milestone on the way! If you skip this you will not be grateful for achieving your goals at the end! Reaching your goal takes time, effort, work and motivation! You deserve credit for it! You don’t want to lose it right after the first corner!
Break your goals into smaller steps and come up with a gift for yourself, each time you reach one!
4) Use positive affirmations!
It’s my favourite “magic trick”, although it’s not abracadabra. Repeating positive sentences do have an effect on our mind. The same way as we plant a lot of negative seeds, such as “I can’t do it” or “I’m not good enough”, we can teach ourselves:
“I feel calm, in balance and I’m so excited to work on achieving my goals”.
5) Calm down and take a deep breath!
If nothing else helps, I promise, this one will. It sounds so simple and it actually is! Make shift, get out of your stress zone, go for a short walk! Take a few deep breaths! Think about and visualize your goal. Now ask yourself: Is this stress mode helping me or limiting me to getting closer to my goal? How does it help me and how does it limit me?